Sounds like interesting times. Also be interested to know how close the gossips are in their latest version of events.
Go as fast or slow as YOU like, just don't get sucked too far in so that you start glossing over red flags because it... ahem... hits a spot. A bit of caution is probably no bad thing.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress