^^ X2

Matt .. I read your sitch, do not always post ... but I do really think the support group would be a great 180, GAL and add to the PMA bucket.

Outside looking in there is so much on your plate man, and it seems to just multiply at times .... I honestly feel that you could really benefit from some positive influences, regardless of the source. The reasons I say this is I truly believe people who have a positive spin on things in general end up being happier .. in general and for whatever reason things just start falling in place for them ... its hard to explain but I see it the opposite aswell, I have a buddy, we have been best friends since HS, he divorced about 12 years ago ... he has held on to the bitterness and looks at the negative in everything, dude was paying ridiculous child support, living in a trailer, driving an old jeep. We talk, I pushed him to start GALing (wonder where I got that from) we even discussed why he was still living in our home town as the XW and kids moved, still working the dead end job, still focused on relationships that were long gone. Lightbulb went off ... in the past 6 months he moved, better job, recently bought a new Dodge Charger and is finally starting to get his life together.

Moral of the story ... looking at the positive, consistently can really change the way things are going for you. You have a job that might have promise, or maybe its not for you ... you know the answer to that deep down, you are an excellent father, you can not control what stbxh and her father do, maybe he controls her, maybe he doesn't, she is still making poor MLC type choices and its affecting you, I get that ... you are doing all you can there ... do not live in the bitterness .. do not let her win that way.


M: 48
W: 47
M16 T26-S8
BD Sept13