Mrrrch A 180 for you should be to become a person that your W enjoys conversing with. Upbeat, happy, interesting. 189 doesn't automatically mean drop the ball- it means to turn around your failings of the past. Your W is craving attention, why would you think that becoming apathetic would draw her back? Pursuing- meaning following her like a puppy dog, begging, crying etc. is not attractive. However, being someone that she ENJOYS being around is!
My 2 cents- compete for her.
By the way- start focusing on your own appearance as well. Share the common interest of looking your best with her.
