Joe - as far as an attorney, keep looking - if tha;s what you want. You should be able to find one you feel comfortable with and give you some piece of mind.
With the wife's interactions, that;s what mine did before she bomb dropped and ever since. For her it seems, doing things with the kids or with me is "too comfortable" and she feels either that I'm manipulating her to see what's she's missing and come back to it or she's worried she might and "be stuck", just as she's gaining momentum on her freedom. I also believe there's some guilt mixed in as well.
For my ww, until she decides she no longer wants the affair, wants to work on her and realizes what she is missing (grass isn't always greener) suggesting things as a family or together is too uncomfortable and won't be something she wants to do with me.
The more I process it, the more I have to remind myself that it's more about her and things she needs to work through than something I need to take personally.
Hang in there!
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
