Strangers?? Me and Nim?? I don't think so! Gosh, that's interesting advice from your solicitor RD. He sounds like a wise friend. And he regrets his D every day for 22 years - that's so sad isn't it. For sure, it isn't worth making early or hasty decisions about D. Not suggesting that you are doing that at all....

RD, have you read much stuff about female MLC? Some of the stuff by Jim and Sally Conway might be useful to read. Also, is your W going through menopause just now? I have found reading some MLC stuff really useful. Not that it justifies my H ongoing behaviour, but it helps me understand better.

It sounds like your W may be headed for a financial crisis RD. What's your plan there if she seeks help from you? Also, my comment on OM is he sounds like a lost soul himself. And W sounds more like a 'carer' for him than anything else (tho the overnight thing is concerning obviously..) But when I read about your pros and cons it almost looks to me that she has replaced care for the family (which she wasn't coping well with - with care for him?)

Just take it slow and steady RD - no sudden moves - but maybe a little RD centric GAL?? xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus