Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[Smothy]

i believe you Smothy. I believe you want it. And I believe you can do it. I'm glad I could help. I was worried about being too critical. I can feel your pain in your words. I understand. Nice thing about being here is that when people say they understand - it actually means something because we are all in these horrible situations.

I feel for you as well because I was OS by myself when a 7 year R busted, and it is lonely. which makes it all the more difficult. And a 20+ year M - well thats gotta suck. Take care Smothy. Please consider adding to your mantra to go easy on yourself.

I wrote this on my other thread;

I am going to be be focussed on getting detached. I have given myself a few stern words and used the stop sign someone wrote about. ATM, it seems I am doing this quite frequently. I know this will slow down.

I want to do this and believe that I can too, thank you for cheering me on. Last night, I allowed myself to get angry and punched a few pillows!