Two steps forward, nine steps back...right?

So I came home from GALing tonight and my H took my S to the OW for supper. Just as a reminder I have no proof that anything is going on and that he denies that it is anything more than innocent. And yes, I know not to believe that but without proof or confirmation, I don't know that I can set a boundary even though it makes me uncomfortable when he tells me they went over there for supper.

I know my IC is going to want me to confront him with my feelings, but I think from being on here, I should just continue focusing on myself and my S, right? I know I've brought this up before, but it's not about me that I'm struggling with...it's my S.

My H and I did have a conversation recently where we both agreed if we were dating anyone in the future, our S would be left out of it unless we both agreed. But then I'm not supposed to believe him.

AAAARRRGGGHHHH! I am so confused here!!!


M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out