Dazed and Confused

[Archer1]

Archer

Just caught up on your sitch.
Seems she is going to constantly temp check you, this is not out of the norm and you are doing well (on the surface but inside you are most likely flipping out a bit .. again .. normal)

Yes, it seems that the temp checking is pretty constant. I am flipping out on the inside, however I have not reacted to anything (in front of her).

This will go how it will ... all you can control is how you are reacting to it all. Keep GAL, PMA those are key and seem to be working a bit right? I was glad to see you cancelled the MC appt ... a mistake I made, had I known OM was still around I would and should have done the same. Its a waste of time otherwise, you saved yourself some ground there.

Yeah, I agreed with Sandi when I asked if I should cancel or not. I think her advice was very sound there. And very appreciated

One thing that seems to happen, if the D starts up she may want to "be friends" after type thing ... my reply to my W, I have plenty of friends and none of them would ever treat me the way you did ... not from a place of anger, just very calm and sincere letting her know I had no interest in her nor the friend zone .... that did seem to turn things some.

I think you are doing well, as far as dinner ... why? Again .. to make sure she has you ... you are a pursuer and I would guess a fixer ... every ounce in your fabric wants to have dinner, hold hands, kiss and pretend all this did not happen .... DO NOT DO THAT. Stay the course, your W has to recommit to you and the M .... till then ... continue doing what you are doing.... do what works right?

I never responded to her and ate dinner before I got home from work. So she came home and ate something from the fridge.

I most certainly had a AWMD. But then I ate dinner, came home, let the dogs out, put on some Chill Jazz on Amazon Radio and sat down and closed my eyes for a good 20 minutes. It was very relaxing and calmed me right down.

This is huge. It's a 180. It's hard. I'm gonna freak out every once in a while. I'm just going to have to live with it until I'm all good again. Just taking it hour by hour.