So I’m trying to let go of my expectations of a great M in my future, and I’m trying to practice finding acceptance for my partners flaws, and the pain that I feel because of them. Maybe my pain will be less if I accept it as normal. Maybe I can live with mediocrity in some areas of my life. I’m going to have to figure this one out, because honestly Py and DB forum readers, it would be nearly impossible for me to be paired with someone that sets the bar as high as me or drives as hard as me to get there.
If there's anything I've learned in DBing and being out in the dating world, it's this:
It is a matter how how much baggage you're willing to tolerate in another partner. We all have baggage in some form. Some are messier than others. Not only baggage that we have to look out for, but also being 100% responsible for any potential red flags that crop up. If you overlook them or push them aside, then it's on you.
In some ways, I've cut others some slack because we are ALL trying our best in this crazy world. This is not to say that I am willingly ignoring any potential red flags that will send me running for the hills.
