Jim0987 #13 - Its life Jim, but not as we know it

[jim0987]

Evening,

I've posted around a little bit and thought I should update my thread

Thanks for asking about my leg gan - its getting better and hopefully within a couple of weeks i might be able to start light exercise again. The foot is all better but the physio has said that its probably not a coincidence that its the same leg.

In terms of my situation well there are two parrallel tracks - the relationship with my XW and then what is happening elsewhere

on the elsewhere first then i've been doing a reasonable job of building up some more social connections to the extent that there are very few days when i dont either have the kids or a social plan, so thats a nice problem to have. sometimes i do have to question the sense of my decision making though.

on the XW front - well the interaction is still odd and there are still big unnecessary delays in communications about the kids. either 1) she has completely changed her relationship with her phone or (and much more likely) 2) messages from me are ignored for a while usually a day or two.

We had D4's birthday party at the weekend and it went well. D4 was very happy and it was the longest XW and I have been in the same room since probably BD. we chatted a little but not too much and so it was friendly enough and civil. we had a couple of moments with the kids where it was almost like our normal family which were nice but accompanied by that pang of regret over the situation.

PF was there, i didnt know she was coming but expected, I chatted to her and we talked about our respective jobs and to be honest it now means PF knows more about what is happening in my life than XW

After the party XW very reluctantly invited me back to hers so that we could both be present while D4 opened presents. again there was some casual chat but it was mostly practical kid stuff. I was only there maybe 45 minutes but it was clear she was keen for me to leave ASAP so i said my goodbyes and left.

So all in all i think it was very positive for D4, as it showed her that we could both be involved in her life without there being too much in the way of difficulty bing between us. There is also no denying things are warmer from XW but at the moment thats a bit like comparing summer and winter in the antartic, yes the difference is massive but its still covered in ice and freezing B****y cold!!