My story goes like many others before me. W dropped ILYBNILWY 51 days ago. I did all the classic DONT Do's. Nothing worked...Begging, pleading, and neither did every other tactic. Early on I broke many rules as I was new to this. Upon snooping I discovered at the least the proof of an OEA between the W and an ex from HS. I confronted her and demanded she end it or leave, I later learned this doesn't work either. W had no desire to save our 15yr M and all R talks led back to D. I filled for D 2 wks ago in an effort to GAL. I detached, we told the kids, and I focused on selling the house & fixing me.
I also read DB week 2 of my journey but didn't always do a great job with my emotions or sticking to the rules. I have changed my attitude and have been doing all the things I was guilty of neglecting in the past. I know she would struggle to support herself and might be realizing this now. I have been confident, upbeat and keep our communication to a min.
Over the weekend we ML 2x and she cried both times and told me its messing with her head. I asked her out to diner yesterday and to my surprise she said yes. We sadly have not been on a date in 5 plus years. Diner started awkwardly but got better as the night progressed. We had drinks played pool and had a great time. We ML again last night and I can't recall the last time we ML 3 days in a row. I am not pushing or pursuing & she claims the EA is over. I am cautiously optimistic but prepared to move on. W is being nice and although still sleeps in the guest room has not mentioned D in 24 hours. Considering my past mistakes I want to avoid making matters worse. Any words of wisdom on moving forward would be helpful. I want to save my M and FAM but hear the clock ticking on the D.
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Me42 W40 S12 D8 M:15yrs BD 3/27/15 D filed 4/27/15
