Trying to Follow DB & DR (3)

[rd500]

Hi Miman. I read all your posts and you don't seem getting the big picture. You spend so much time debating your position that I feel you miss the advice. If I cannust revert to my sitch. When W left I was devestated , 25 years and my best friend , I came on here , went to L/C and looked everywhere for help. MrBond gave me his time and I defended my actions in my M The second time MrBond gave me advice , I listened , went away and realised he was right and I was wrong I have never seen MrBond stock with someone like he has you. Maybe he comes across abruptly but he is giving you advice from a place of experience having saved his own marriage.

A very quick analogy , my dad will ask for directions. I will tell him the best way and he will invariably argue. Why does he ask me ? I'm talking 30 odd years of this and every time he asks I die a little inside ! !

I don't know you but I share your pain. I have no doubt you are an intelligent person and able to debate your opinion well but what good is it doing you ?

There is a time for listening and a time for debate. Maybe this is time is the former.

We all want each other to get through this with the best possible outcome. I'm just trying to get to to listen to someone trying to help you.

I often look back over my posts to see if I'm getting it !! Have a quick look back over yours and see how much energy you put in to debating No one is trying to put you down , just trying to help

Take care mate. Rd



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