Ten .. have you gone dark/dim with her? ... or like me were you to readily accessible .. has she ever had to really do things without you, life with out you?
TB: I have been going dark since the beginning of April. It really helped but it enraged her. We started talking again only a couple of days ago and it opened up all my healing wounds.
Honestly .. nothing she has said requires your immediate response so I personally would let her slow cook with it, let it sink in you are not going to just roll over and be her puppet anymore .. I caught you read NMMNG ... think about those lessons here.
TB: I don't want her to suffer. Of course... I know that answer to my own response!!
I got to the point with my W I refused any big discussion like this over TM or email so I was not misunderstood. Something like this you may want to tell her you are looking into it, protecting your assets and yourself, getting legal advice and will get back to her .... but I would wait on telling her that for a bit.
T2 gave me some good advice with TM back to my W. (I was to available .. even at 2 in the morning)
Emergency concerning kids .. immediate response Concerning Kids (schedules pick ups ... etc) 15-20 min Anything else .. 2 hours .. you are busy GALing, and living your life.
It comes down to going dark and one day at a time.
