I do have to say that the days where H is working and I don't see him are easier for me then the days H comes to my house and I have to see him. That is when I start obsessing so I need to figure out how to handle that. Any suggestions?
I know full detachment for me was really hard due to seeing W often. In DB I think there was a little blip about when you do have contact, make certain you end the conversation first .. do this consistently. I was short here and there ... dropped S off, gave him a warm kiss/hug smiled ... PMA always high (or atleast tried) then would look at her "Have a nice day" and i turned around and left ... every now and then she would try to stop me, I would either make sure I was out, or turn answer the question (Usually a weak one) ... again say have a great day and almost skip to my car like I was the happiest dude ever.
Atfirst ... ^^^^^ tough, fake it till ya make it ... but it does help one begin to rebuild ... lets face it .. the BD, nothing stings more ... well .. maybe one other thing .. but BD is tough and it strips us of everything we thought we were and what we thought we wanted.
So ... yeah .. hit up those GAL's ... fake the PMA ... end the convo first thats how you start to detach.
