Lucy, If you aren't happy with the first lawyer, seek out another one and continue until you do find someone that you feel comfortable with. If he's paying her bills, that is money coming from the martial assets that you will need to keep track of because it's your money too.
No one is saying to push him, but you need to take care of yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. Yes, it's early on, but he's been thru a couple of marriages and you have to have some idea as to what he did in those to do the DIY divorce kits.
Start calling around and doing some research. BTW, the jobs you had...well...they are still good jobs and there are always people looking for those skill sets. Don't sell yourself short! You are worth far more than a little itty bitty check.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
