Thing is she is going to spew, blow up, yell because in her mind she has this all figured out, excactly how it will go and unfold .. unfortunately she most likely has not thought about you ... in her mind you should be going along with all this, if not helping her ... its ludicrous but seems that how they think, when you do something that is unexpected it throws them off, first impulse is to spew, as you are the sole reason for their unhappiness as far as they are concerned right now. She will need to go on her journey and figure out some things ... one of these is that you are in fact not the reason for all the unhappiness.
I agree with the house, her choice she can leave. You can rent part of it out, pick up work, whatever ... Just like all things .. they want this let them do the work.
