BTW I appreciate everything everyone has told me and is telling me. It is clearly good advice and I am trying to take it all in and apply it. I know it is what I need to do I am must be a slow learner. I am going to get it though. I am going to reread these posts until it is hammered into my head.
Every time I have a week moment or question about what I should be doing 25yearsmlc and everyone else posts to me is what I will read before I react.