WH, You may want to start "brushing up" your resume. You don't want to wait and you move. If you start working on it now, it will be easier to make edits to it once you have relocated.
I'm sure your xh gets annoyed w/your son because he does remind him of you and that's got to be a thorn in his side. LOL! Also, your son is growing up and is now capable to questioning the things your xh says and does...a little bit harder to manipulate him now.
I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is having issues w/dying. Did someone die that she knows? Where did this come from? I'm sure it's a difficult issue to deal w/because she knows that when people die, the physical body is gone. I hope she can work through this and soon.
As for being independent...you can still be independent and have a balance w/the NG. Don't change YOU to please him. It's a two way street and both of you will need to make changes and adapt to each other's personalities and even more so once you move in together.
Since summer is right around the corner, what are your plans?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
