i believe you Smothy. I believe you want it. And I believe you can do it. I'm glad I could help. I was worried about being too critical. I can feel your pain in your words. I understand. Nice thing about being here is that when people say they understand - it actually means something because we are all in these horrible situations.
I feel for you as well because I was OS by myself when a 7 year R busted, and it is lonely. which makes it all the more difficult. And a 20+ year M - well thats gotta suck. Take care Smothy. Please consider adding to your mantra to go easy on yourself.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015