Last thought on this and then I have to STFU and go to work.
I go to extremes a alot.
I picture myself in a terrible, resentment filled, sex starved M, with a W that lacks compassion and maturity...and I ask myself if I can find happiness there. It's like I'm fighting a battle, and I'm picturing myself surrounded with no allies.
But I'll have allies. She'll show me love in many ways. There will be warm moments. So it won't be "me trying to find happiness in a world void of love and filled with abusive actions". It will be me trying to find acceptance in a world with many good things, and some that aren't the way I would wish them to be.
That's a lot like life. I'm handling life. I think I can learn to handle a M next time around...
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15