Sounds like you're doing a grand job to me Gan, keep going and remember if you can take a detatched look at yourself without being defensive on other peoples viewpoints then Ambivert (cool btw!) or introvert thats cool. In my case I did that and my thoughts were "wait, what, thats me now...oh! Some assembly required - possibly a little light demolition!"
Ah "Thing", still can't say what it was, I made a concious decision to not pry into w's dealings and nothing else came up from those channels so it seemed to just stop once she started to come back towards the idea of reconciling. Will it resurface and be a (caps) "THING" or not? Don't know, just decided to work on me, what I can in the m as w comes closer and relationship with s and leave "things" I cant do much about or that arent immediately apparent alone for now.
We shall, as they say, see!
Cheers Gan, keep on keeping on
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015