Yeah Gan, I joke about painful stuff. "Enemy camp" was a joke that had a grain of truth because it represented the gap between understanding, and how when you're in an R and suffering it's easy to see your spouse as an opponent, and see their views as being the problem...this view did play a big role in the destruction of my M. It didn't help EITHER of us. I made her the enemy so to speak. She didn't feel like making sexy time, and now we are divorcing. There are no winners in a marital battle.

So I joke about it, and laugh at myself for my failures. Not vindictively, but out of compassion. Like how sometimes watching someone make a mistake you know they are about to make is funny, not because their pain is funny, but because it's so predictable and you've been there before. It's like, lol, we're all such flawed humans! You have to either laugh or cry.

I'll read the book, I promise!

Last edited by Zues126; 05/12/15 12:57 PM.
Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15