"Sleep in their eyes" and "snot in their nose" is a big difference than almost burning down the house, having moldy food in the kitchen where the kids could eat it and pushing them in front of cars.......

Read what you wrote again.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction