Lucy, What is the attraction to the ow? The attraction is not her looks, but she's new. She's different and she is the exact opposite of you. You have to remember that your h isn't himself right now and he's acting out in ways that are totally opposite of himself. He also sees himself as a rescuer, someone who is helping out a needy woman right now. Of course, she could also be stroking his ego and making him feel like a big man around town right now because truly, they are using each other as crutches to get by. Both have some serious issues to deal with.
He will wake up when he's ready and not until then. His business could be under water, truck gone, you are gone and until he's hit rock bottom hard, he may continue as he is right now. In many cases, they have to lose everything before they begin to see the light of day. Then, there are those cases, whereby they continue on in life as angry, bitter old people who see nothing but negativity all around them and they are truly lonely people who aren't happy. It's too early to tell which way your h will go.
For now, keep the focus on you and your business. Leave your h to twirl in the wind because there's nothing you can do for him except to let go and pray that he resolves whatever issues he's got going on and come to realize that home is where he wants to be.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
