Ripken - LRT with a WW and divorce filed #3

[Ripken8]

Sandi, wonka, everyone else. While living in the same house and going through trying to come to agreement on finances, I'm not sure how to go dark or lrt effectively.

As I do it, I'm not sure she really respects me. All she expresses is that it feels like I don't give a crap and that makes her feel like she can't trust me and I'm the bad guy out to hurt or manipulate her. How does that keep the path home smooth? How does that generate respect?

Part of me feels when I move out I need to go dark to have her realize what she's missing and stand by my no om boundary. But the other part knows she has abandonment fears and that by me doing that would just continue to prove her right.

Yes she made the choice to have the affair and she continues to disrespect me. But do I go dark when right now the returns are anger and an overall feeling that I don't care for her and am out to get her? Or do I continue to communicate and help her with selling our house and risk having her think I'm ok with the affair and possibly lose respect along the way.