Powerful stuff Zues. I just posted something in my own thread where I realize W may never see the pain shes caused me, and then I read this. This thought never crossed my mind before she might even if we reconciled. I always assumed part of our reconciliation process(If it happened) was her acceptance of what shes done, and really understanding how much shes hurt me. I guess I have been keeping score and didn't realize it, or maybe right now I still want to keep score. I know I'm not ready to forgive, not while the damage is still being done. One day yes, just not right now.
I also never considered learning SO much about relationships by going through this could actually sabotage my next. Lots to think about from your post, lots. Thanks for the perspective.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
