Ripken - LRT with a WW and divorce filed #3

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Well not sure how well that went or what I was expecting. Talked with ww about meeting with attorney and wanting to be able to talk through finances together so neither of us has to feel animosity and can be able to still communicate on important things.

Told her I cannot afford the full mortgage, but proposed and am willing to do $800. Also told her that I already am working to cut things out of my budget like cable in order to ensure she gets that payment.

She got angry and said that she hates dealing with this and loves being able to just have her attorney handle things because she hates talking about it. She also said she is scared because she can't make the mortgage payment on her own and is worried all the extra expenses will leave her in financial duress.

I told her I can understand why that would scare her and I want to look at our bills and find a way to get to a number that works for both of us. She is also stressed because she needs to out the house on the market and not sure to do that and not sure what happens if it doesn't sell, etc.

She also made the comment that she stopped coming to me because she felt like I no longer gave a [censored]. That when she would want to talk about light things, I would be checked out and give short responses - lrt and going dark as much as possible. So she felt she couldn't come to me with anything remotely serious.

I told her I understood that she felt that way and that this obviously isn't easy for either one of us. In the end I want to continue to communicate so that we can both be ok, so our sons will have 2 places where they can be safe and have what they need.

She said she'd be more open to talking, but never agreed on any amount and I didn't force the issue.

Really not sure what to do from here.