How will this OM possible run it's course? It's been going on for almost a year now. I ask her if he loves her. She can't even say it. She just says that he definitely doesn't love her back. Talking to her just is a spin on lies and more lies.
I know that mindreading is not good. Okay. I get it.
I know what to do but I don't know what to do.
If you read a bit .. sometimes the A's last and the MLCr marries em thinking thats where happiness is hiding. My W and her A/OM lasted almost 2 years before W woke up and realized dude was a player and only in it for his own wants.
Does it matter if he loves her? Nope ... besides how would she know ... she is probably not real sure of whats in her own head let alone anyone elses.
She is lying to you .. like a teen hiding that BF who daddy will never approve of ... my W did the same.
Here is the thing, there is nothing you can do about the A, in her mind she fired you from being the H, when you fire someone and they show up to work are you going to let them in, pay them, involve them in meetings? Nope ... door is locked and you are outside and can only guess as to what is going on at this point.
What you have to do is act as if she is gone, live your life and start looking at yourself, things you could do better... do not play into her game .. and there will be games. Let her go on this journey, seems she knows OM is not right for her, mine said the same thing ... was another year before anything actually happened about it .... not saying that will happen to you .. just sharing as I have been there, not to long ago.
