I read a great article in which an author was going through a separation with her husband. He may have been having a MLC, I don't remember. And friends were asking her how long was she going to wait, how long was she going to allow this to drag out. And her response? She said what was a bad year, being separated for a year if it meant that she would have her marriage for the next 25+ years. She ended up being separated for three years before they reconciled.
IF ... and thats a big IF ... my W and I R and figure this thing out .. our separation will be closer to 2 years ... its been 18 months at present.
And yeah, looking big picture because I did have to ask myself that question, we have been together 24 years ... lets say there is a 2 year 'break' (loose term as I still remained married here) maybe we go another 24 years before I meet my maker ... thats 50 years total .. whats 2 of that? 4% ... drop in the bucket really, and I am willing to risk that in order for that last 24 years to be the happy/rewarding/ healthy M that I think it could be, now if I am not convinced after all this that we can get there, then I will let it go, take it for what it was, and move on.
