Patience is very difficult for many people who post here because many of us are fixers. We want to make things right, but this is one time we can't do that because we weren't involved in their childhoods. What happened is that they are emotionally stunted and they have to go back to that time, face their issues and come to understand that they were not at fault for what happened to them. We were not the authority figures back them because we were children ourselves and now as adults, we can't make it right for them. Yes, we can listen, affirm and validate, but there's nothing we can do but let them go and pray for them. We have been given the opportunity to do things for ourselves at this time. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it really is a time to reflect on ourselves and makes positive changes.
Here is a link to the detaching thread, which is found at the top of the MLC forum. I hope it helps and let's stick to one thread. Okay?
