Toot Toot - here I come!

[jim0987]

Hi Toots.

How are you feeling today? Did you have a good day in the office?

Im going to suggest that the 'meh' feeling was at least in part due to being tired but having said that 'meh' is quite a good reaction all things considered. Have you recovered from election duties yet?

I do absolutely do get what you mean by distance and distance though, despite my situation being very different. when you think about, or least when i do - its just all a bit weird. as a adjunct i do sometimes wonder what would happen if both sides of a M were on these boards but didnt know it and/or recognise the other side - like for example what would we all be telling your H if he was posting about your situation, would we all just be encouraging distance.....

Back to reality about the D, with your H as he is i would say just ignore everything he has said and concentrate on what you want to do. You talked about a financial settlement because its good for you, he said a divorce but then hasnt done anything, but you also seem to have backed off from the financial bit (or have i missed that)

Your H will do what your H will do but i genuinely dont think he is deliberately trying to make things worse for you - I'm going to guess he is scared and lonely and confused but trying to look strong and determined (totally mindreading here I know)

I guess what im trying to say is that Toots needs to look after herself and its actions that count. From what you've said that means getting the financials sorted so that you can properly build your life where you are now around all the great stuff you've been doing. He might progress the D at the same time but he might not but you can leave that bit to him

Either way in the long run it wont stop your H coming back to you should he choose to do so.

Anyway know you are great and a really positive influence on the people around you - including us lot

Have a great day at work tomorrow and I hope the challenging new stuff goes well