Raliced - The Magnificent Seventh

[Mozza]

Thanks for the update raliced. It is sad that your H never told you, but maybe he thought you were a good mother. I know I wasn't telling to my WW many of the things I thought about her, even the nice ones. My love language was Acts of Service, and only after reading the book did I realize that hers was Words of Affirmation.

You're an impressive person in many ways, from what we see on these boards, so you will get a lot of things right and a few wrong. I'm not sure you got your M wrong, whether it's him or you, but now you are better equipped than ever to have a good R in your future. If you're like me, the mere fact of being faced with failure makes you revisit a lot of past behaviors and their consequences. I like what my friend told me about the lessons of his separation: We now have a few more lights on our dashboards, warning us of our destructive behaviors.