Since you are very new to the forum, I thought I'd drop you a note and let you know that you should stick to one thread at a time and when you have received 100 replies/posts, then create a new thread. Why? Because it is easier for posters to follow your story and it also makes it easier for you to go back and refer to your old threads to see just how far you've come as you continue on the road of MLC Land.
When you post on your other thread, you can go in and change your subject line in the current posting, i.e., just as I have in this posting.
I'm going to reply here, but I will also link this thread on your other one. Okay?
No, you didn't blow it, but you do need to learn patience. Just because he was nice several weeks ago, doesn't mean he's ready to discuss the relationship w/you. MLC takes a very long time and when he said he didn't want to talk about it, well...he's not ready to address the issue.
I would suggest that you not contact him again unless it's an emergency or something to do w/your son. I say leave it alone for now because he will contact you again when he's ready. Patience!
There is no right or wrong way to deal w/crisis people, but there is one thing that we always advise...do not bring up relationship talks because they will push the spouses away quicker than anything else.
For now, continue to move forward, be patient and keep the focus on you and your son.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
