Raliced, thanks for the info about bird nesting. I have been busy but did a little more reading about it. I am wondering who pays for the mortgage during that period of time. Do we have to refinance? What if W damages the home during this period? Sounds like it could really put me at risk. I can imagine why it is not very common. Also it may be easier for the kids, but it forces me to remain very involved with my W. I still can't believe this is happening. I am still pretty paralyzed by uncertainty. I know this is preventing me from moving forward. But now that the Bar-Mitzvah is over, I will move forward. I must because I must because I must. Ugghh.
Lost18, Thanks for your concern re: intrusiveness of OM. I will probably post about my S13s Bar-Mitzvah in another post. regarding your idea that remain friends with W to make OM jealous - I just don't see it happening. I am trying very hard to remain cordial and civil - and not doing a great job of it. But I am still trying to improve things.
Mozza,
Originally Posted By: Mozza
Originally Posted By: RAI
I really think that OM, in this case, has a vendetta against me. It is not only about his limerance and infatuation with my W - if it is at all. I really suspect that he wants to stick it to me in some way. (...) I truly wonder whether all of his actions on some level are motivated by inflating his ego by deflating mine and profaning everything I value.
There is a lot of mindreading in this and some narcissism (you make his love life about you)
I agree with you to an extent. I agree with you that regardless of whether her thinks about me or not, it will give him more grief if I "DB like a jedi". (awesome way to put it, BTW). But you should know that there have been instances where I have felt threatened by him. I have documented numerous occasions where I have been out running (my best GAL activity) and he has buzzed by me in his car. Without elaborating - I can if you want - he does it in a way that is much less likely to be coincidental. He does not live in my neighborhood anymore and I don't announce when I am running until the last minute. My wife could be texting him. There are some streets (mine included) that do not have sidewalks. He may not be trying to destroy me, but if he is, I don't want to get this one wrong.
Thanks for the "DB move of the week" nomination. I don't think my W would dare sleep in our BR again (unless I would accept her back - ain't happenin' any time soon). She did not try over the whole Bar-Mitzvah weekend.
