WAH with one foot out the door and one in.

[Zues126]

He then asked if I was going to always question and not trust him and who he us with. Basically, he was asking when and if I would be able to fully trust him again.

I don't understand the question or response here.

If I am getting this right:
-he has had an affair
-he hasn't recommitted to the M
-he hasn't apologized for his behavior nor given you any commitment not to do it again

This isn't about trust or forgiveness...he hasn't given you any reason to believe you should trust him.

There are two parts to trust. Him acting in ways that are appropriate, then you letting go of the past and allowing God to heal. He's asking for #2 before he does #1. Fire has to come before smoke.

Does he understand that? Do you?

You can't be so eager for R that you lose sight of this, because it can't work if you're so desperate to forgive that he doesn't even apologize.