IMO, counseling doesn't serve anything positive as long as she has another man in her head. My suggestion is do a 180 from the last time, and cancel the appointment. If she should act surprised or asks why, just tell her you changed your mind about going. Then that will probably pike her curiosity and will want to know if you still want to save the M. I would give vague answers, b/c if you start with that speech about not wanting a D, she will quickly lose any interest in you.
The only way to attract a WW is to become a great guy who is uninterested in her....and unavailable for her. Remember the dance of distance and pursuing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
