Thanks for the hug Bob. Never refuse a good hug !!!!!
Hi Jim. Thanks for checking in. Not doing well mate. Met L/C last Thursday's and it didn't go well. L/C has met with W recently and is convinced OM is nothing but a friend to W I don't agree so L/C doesn't think she can help me any further because she is giving me advice based on her opinions formed after meeting W . This was tough to hear as L/C has helped me a lot and I have huge respect for her
I have pulled back from W and been out when she's called to house and responded to texts politely but shortly. I was driving home Friday night and got a call from W which I sent to voicemail. I got another 2 mins later so I answered. OM had left his door key at work and asked W to drop it off as she drives past his door to get home. W called to my house to collect D14 and as they set off D14 saw a text from OM about leaving the key in local shop for him to collect. D14 told W to take her back to my house as she wanted nothing to do with OM. W was calling me to explain. I just said drop her home and why did W have to get involved on the one night she has D14. When I got home both Ds were very upset and W was gone. W then called and asked to speak to D14. W was crying I asked D14 to speak to her which she did and W came back and collected D14
When they got to Ws flat D14 told W that she wanted nothing ever to do with OM or Ws friends. W was crying the whole time and told D14 she was just friends with OM and OMs sister. W told D14 that she was incredibly sad and missed her family D14 told her never to mention OM again or D14 and W could not be friends anymore. W promised she wouldn't mention anything again
Jim , all this is head wrecking because W could have dropped off key before collecting D14 and no one would have known. I've given up on the M as I have said before and I'm meeting with solicitor tomorrow's of see how I can remove W from my life. I still love her but I can't see anyway back that we would all be happy with. I will treat her as the mother of my kids deserves to be treated All I want is for her to be out of my life as much as possible. This might mean selling the house and moving to a different area I will see what solicitor advises. I can't go for D because it's a 5 year wait in Ireland. Legal seperation looks like the best option but again I'll wait and see what solicoor has to say.
This is a really hard decision and its against all the advice from my circle of supporters W seems to be completely lost and if I could help her I would Im not sure of Ws response to Solictors letter but it doesn't really matter. I can't live my life like this anymore
Jim , I so admire people who can stand for their M and I wish I had their strength but I dont. My outlook on my future is I will be happy again and I will live a full life. My kids are all important at the moment and I have my business to build back up. I do get sad and lonely and just recently very angry at the waste Maybe this is grieving , maybe not.
