Thank you AJ and KML.

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Sometimes Tad, I wonder who really had the crisis during this mid-life transition.


Me too brother. Me too. I've changed so much. Some for the good and some for the bad.

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Can I suggest you keep going to the IC and commit to going at least for a total of 6 times?


I will consider it. No promises, but I'll consider it.

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Make no mistake, this IS depression, and you need help to heal your brain from its biological effects. Are you taking any medications or supplements to treat depression? What is your diet like? Levels of vitamin D, thyroid, testosterone?


I don't eat as well as I should. I have no idea what any of my levels are, but I'm trying to get in to see a doctor later this week or next. I've been reading a lot about depression and it too can cause weight loss. I don't mind the weight loss, it just seems fairly drastic this time around. I know that I have been pretty upset about my rattie getting old. She has literally been my best friend for the past 2 and a half years. Her sister was too and she passed away in December. (Silly, I know.) Not silly to me though. As for meds, I was on them for about a year after this all started. I weaned myself off of them because I didn't want to be dependent on them and because my brother was on them when he committed suicide. I just didn't like being on them but.....I may just have to face facts and get back on them. I'll see what the doctor says. I just don't want to be on them all my life. Thought I was past all of this mess.

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I will check out the book you suggested. I've visited the website you mentioned. Good stuff there.

Thanks for responding.

Tad


Currently:
M 57 XW 58
Sons 39,34,32,30

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13