Yes, you CAN and WILL do this. It's difficult, no doubt about it but we'll all be ok. I have to be honest here I feel a million time better now than I did just a few months ago. I can be in her company without crumbling and I can also get through the day quite happy without thinking about my sitch. It took a bit of time and a considerable amount of will power but I did it. These boards help of course.
Have a good day.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.