I don't want to go back on my boundary and have her feel like we can be friends while she has an affair, like that's ok. But I can't keep telling her that (I haven't since I gave her the boundary) because she already knows.
The second guessing and over analyzing is tough.
Hi Rip,
You're welcome! I prayed for you right after I pressed the submit button.
I understand why you would feel confused and therefore second guess yourself. You may have a better handle on this than you think. It is very good that you don't keep telling her about the boundary you set. As you wrote, she already knows. If you keep bringing it up, it will most likely push her further away from you.
For now, try to focus on your boys and the fact that they had a good time tonight.
What do others think?
Keep your chin up, okay??
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
