Rip,
I know how hard this is hitting you right now.

What I try to do when everything hurts is tell myself (sometimes out loud) that now is the time to work on me. And everything else is out of my control.

Maybe this will help. Maybe not. Hang in there!

Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15