So how do you let go of this? Well, it is DEFINITELY a process, and won't happen immediately. But it won't happen naturally either. You have to decide you're going to break the habit of judging and criticizing your WAW, which again requires you to not allow her to hurt you anymore. If that means you have to "give up" on the M, that's fine, as long as "giving up" doesn't involve anything not DB recommended (medication, affairs, any bridge burners).
This is almost to the letter the reassurance I wanted/needed to hear!!
Same, I need to jump off this roller coaster as I am beginning to hate myself for not being able to get off and not allow myself to be hurt. I have to willingly make that decision.
My new goal I will actively decide this everyday. Thank you.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
