The end

[mustardseed]

Learning to not give too much away. Some 180s that I am feeling good about:

About me heading out to my parents for the weekend with D11

Friday.
H: Aren't you leaving tonight?
M: Haven't decided yet.
H: It's better if you just leave.
M: (silence-start making pasta for me and S: who was expecting pizza since H said he would order one but as of 8:00 no sign of it.)
H: Why are you making him dinner now you haven't fed him dinner in 3 days.
M: (silence with PMA)
H: (orders pizza).
I ended up waiting until the morning to leave.

**About the dinner comment: Tuesday I took them out to dinner for cinco de mayo, Wednesday I was running around with S13 for games and confirmation class and was going to pick up dinner on the way home but H got home first and made pizza bagels for them. Thursday I had plans to help my sister out with her kids and S didn't want to go, D and I had dinner with with niece and nephew--S was with H all night. Friday, D and I were planning on heading out for the weekend but S had plans Saturday and was going to stay behind with H. Interesting how he twists it as if I have been neglecting S because he had to be responsible for feeding him for a few days.

Saturday
H: Did you find out about your job yet?
M: Yes
H: So do you have a job next year?
M: I don't have to tell you that information.

These are huge 180s for me. I always divulge way too much information. Learning that I don't have to explain myself or have full disclosure is new for me and feels pretty empowering.