Thanks for the text - how lovely they made me something. How about I swing by at 3 to pick up the gift and thank them. I would then say "thank you sooooo much to the kids - Mommy will see you Friday" and then just leave.
No mention of lunch or brunch or any of that. I would be cordial but distant to ww. I would thank her again for the text.
Thoughts? Too cold??? Is this just breadcrumbs she is throwing my way? God I used to be so sure of myself.
I just want to strike the right balance of thanking my kids and not coming across as a crumb snatcher.
Short, to the point, and non needy. Put it back on her.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
Short, to the point, and non needy. Put it back on her.
Dear Heavy,
Calling Wonka for you. I like Kramer's approach myself. It is non-needy and puts it back on her.
I hope Wonka checks in for you, too.
I wish you all the best.
(((HeavyD)))
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Doesn't matter. Lunch after church or we can just swing by meet up for ice cream and you can get your MD gifts from them.
Hmmmm.....
Tentative response: I can meet for ice cream at XPM at XX(location). See you then. I will meet kids, thank them for their gifts and be on my way. I will cordially say hello and goodbye to WW.
Tentative response: I can meet for ice cream at XPM at XX(location). See you then. I will meet kids, thank them for their gifts and be on my way. I will cordially say hello and goodbye to WW.
Thoughts??
Heavy,
I think it's a good response, but I have to ask you this: Can you really cordially say hello and goodbye to WW? Please take a little time to think about that. If so, I say your response is a good one....unless Wonka catches up and disagrees.
I know this is SO hard on you. You're doing a good job.
Anyone else think Heavy's response is ok?
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Good part of DB is that you can try new things and see how it goes. If you want to meet them for lunch or ice cream one time I don't think it would hurt. Just view it as your seeing your kids for mothers day and don't have any expectations good or bad for W.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Could not agree with Fogg more. May as well go to see the kids to celebrate MD. If you keep your expectations related to your W at 0, then you can't be disappointed in what happens with her.
I like Kramer's approach myself. It is non-needy and puts it back on her.