lost, you've gone through so much. I understand your frustration at not having detached more, but I so admire your loyalty and character despite it's futility at times.
M's have definitely come back from here, and while this feels like an eternity now, I'm glad you're thinking of the greater picture.
Have you used a DB coach in the past? I can see what your sister is saying. Even how you've been "turning the other cheek" for so long is a form of giving in. I think it's absolutely the right thing to do at times, but I'm curious what a DB coach would say at this point. There is a fine line between showcasing 180s and allowing him to cake eat.
Just wanted to let you know we're following and I, for one, wish there were more like you out there. The world would be a better place.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15