I will add my opinion and observation to the mix as well. Our spouses have made their decision to walk away from our relationships. We cannot change that. All we can do is continue to work on ourselves and be the lighthouse. I grew with the fact that it's not just the good times that we are missing, but also the bad times. Most of our spouses have treated us poorly with their selfish behaviors, and I think it's important that we don't just sweep that under the rug.


Me M51
WW F46
T 17 yrs
M 16 yrs
9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17
8 grandchildren
ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14
I discover PA 12/31/14
She files D: 1/9/15
She moves out 3/2/15
D papers served 3/18/15