During my weekly appoinment, my IC said he feels I've made huge, positive changes in my thinking and have owned up to all that is my fault in our M. He's not one to say things like this lightly, so it made me feel good. My point is, you can change if you truly want to and stick with it.
Something else he added: There is an unfortunate irony. People wait years and years for their spouse to wake up and change their ways. Then when they finally do it, they are told it's too late.
I think this is what happens in some cases where the M does not get reconciled.
Hopefully, this won't be my outcome or yours, either (whoever may be reading this).
Let's all hang in there! I'm learning daily that this can take a long time.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
