But, a big thing I have learned is never to make any big decisions when I feel low, angry or emotional. The big decisions are saved for those sober and calm times. I also try to think very long term now - how will this sit with me in 2,3,5 years time - and I try and act in accordance with my values in the longer term.
I'm sure most of us have thought - I can't do this any more - but tomorrow is another day and likely your feelings will change. The more you can work on your own level of detachment, the better. Because that takes the edge off the pain and makes carrying on more possible. If we don't detach enough, we have so many ups and downs, we get to the point where we just want to 'move on.'
Dearest Toots.
I read your other post too. They are both so wonderful... Just like you.
You truly write from your heart and I can tell you are such a loving person! Everything you commented on or advice you gave in both posts was like gold. I especially agree with the part that I quoted above.
You know what? Today is going to be a better day because I've put last night in the rearview mirror, thanks in large part to all of my friends on the DB forum.
I'm sending hugs and kisses on the cheek to you!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
