I also am beginning to realize that my wife has a ton of anger and resentment toward me. Some justified. Some not. But either way it is there.
So I need to keep focusing on being the best version of me I can be and just allow her to work through this in her own way and at her own pace.
I am convinced that even though she says she is done that she is doubtful, angry and confused. She would have pulled the trigger already if she were 100% certain. So I'm just staying the course and monitoring results.
What I'm doing right now seems to be moving things slowly in the right direction.