Before we say he's rewriting history we have to acknowledge that he had been deeply hurt in this fight and hadn't felt safe or fulfilled in some important ways after that. I think this might be about the most direct feedback he's given you about why he's leaving.
What was the first fight about?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15